Forced To Be A Father

On today's Dr. Phil show, there was a heated debate on the responsibilites of a father when a child is born out of wedlock. Should the father have as much responsibility as the mother? Should the father use the excuse of not knowing about the child before its birth to not be an adequate father? Should the father not have to pay to support the child or should they not have to do any more than pay child support?

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Here's what I think....
Ok ladies.... if you're going to have a baby out of wedlock, PLEASE inform the person that got you pregnant that you are indeed pregnant. And PLEASE make sure that the person you are informing is indeed the CORRECT person that got you pregnant. Sometimes, I blame women for the men not stepping up as fathers because some women fail to inform the men that they will be fathers in the beginning. Instead, they decide to wait until the child is born and realize that they can start collecting child support. Then, when the father starts to support the child, it's never enough. The woman is almost never satisfied and fails to realize that his responsibilty is to take care of the child, not to take care of her and the child. IT'S NOT A MARRIAGE JUST BECAUSE YALL HAVE A CHILD TOGETHER! All in all, when women get their stuff together, men will eventually fall in line.
On the other hand, if the woman does her part in letting the man know in a timely manner, that man has absolutely no excuse to not be there and provide for that child like he should. In or out of wedlock does not matter, she's still that child's mother and he's still that child's father...plain and simple. Support just doesn't come in monetary value. It's also emotional and physical. You're man enough to make a baby, be man enough to take care of it.

But that's just my opinion....what do you think??